Many of us spend regular hours processing the emotions we experience in our lives. It is believed that if we come to a place of intention with them, we will be happier and/or more present in our lives. Emotion processing is a difficult skill for many, especially if they were not taught as children to identify what they were feeling. Millions have a hard time processing their feelings, so if you realize you belong in this category, don’t feel alone.
Emotion processing is an intellectual skill as well as a physical experience. We may be able to express feelings, and recall a memory related to the feeling but we don’t have a real connection to it in our body. Which can make us feel disconnected from the experience itself as well as from our body.
The ability to perceive emotions involves feeling the full experience in our physical body. It’s a sense of where our bodies feel uncomfortable when we’re feeling upset and all of our physical reactions are involved. When we do this, we are teaching ourselves to be more present with our bodies. The more we live with this kind of awareness, anger feels more powerful but so does joy and happiness. We begin the process of letting go of a life of muddled emotions where we feel little and remain in the ordinary expression of our feelings to a whole bunch of ourselves.
One of the keys to getting out of the ordinary is learning to feel the feelings of our past. What we have suppressed emotionally is often one of the barriers that prevent us from feeling like ourselves. If we can tap into those energized memories at the body level, we can start the process of releasing them for good. Our cognitive recall of these experiences only gives us the information from our mind that we have to process what our body stored away so they can really go for it.
What I’ve discovered is that a lot of our everyday fears, anxieties, anger, etc. almost always have a source from our past. So when I experience these feelings I stop and sit and feel them. The first step is to identify where in your body you feel the tightness. If you cannot recognize it in your body, ask your body awareness to come to feel it. Or just ask your body, “Where are these feelings located?”
Our bodies can do this. They are complex sensory organs that can give us vast amounts of information if we ask for it. It is important to know that the body wants us to reveal these things because it will be easier for it not to carry these stuffed feelings.
When we are able to locate the sensation of affection, sit down and be present with it. Put your awareness to realize the full intensity of experiencing this. Just note, if we judge it, we re-traumatize the experience, ie don’t delve into how bad the experience was. Even if a memory pops up, be present with it.
Once you realize that you are in touch with the full active memory of the experience, ask your body, “Is there a deeper source where these feelings originated from?” Notice if another sensation appears in your body, it may be somewhere else or even below where you were working. Start the process of realizing the full density of active memory again. Your presence with her will be the catalyst for his release.
When we release these experiences, we will begin to feel lighter in our bodies. It is as if the energetic rocks are being removed from us to make way for a greater awareness of the body that generally begins to be perceived as a lighter feeling. It is part of the whole process of knowing yourself.
As I dig deeper into this process, I find that sometimes I need to cry to help with grief, or to hit or scream into pillows to fully release my anger. When I do this, I stay focused on the intensity of the energy in my body, and don’t place my attention on the person I’m angry with like imagining their face on the pillow. It’s about identifying and releasing your anger, not projecting it onto someone. Important distinction.
What I’ve found is by using the Access Energy Transformation Tools, I’m able to release these pent-up emotions more effectively. Access releases thoughts, beliefs, and emotions at the cellular level. When used directly with the identification of the active emotional experience, the release is very dynamic and enduring. I have seen my life change and witnessed huge transformative shifts in others with these amazing tools.
When we begin to live in a place where we are not affected by our pent-up feelings, we begin to live with a fuller presence within ourselves. We are no longer affected by our past in our daily interactions. It’s a wonderful freedom. We feel anger, sadness, and happiness more fully than a more realistic perception.